Home. If there is a word around which my life swirls it is this one. Home spirals down from the outermost shell toward an unseen core, ending at a space so small and personal that it exists only inside us.
Home is not always easy to find. If what you seek is a home
for your spirit or soul, you—paradoxically—first must have faith to find it.
As for our physical homes, sometimes they are lost to us. We
try to build new ones, but our minds go back to a certain home from the past. In
dreams and daydreams we walk the halls, meeting pets and people long gone, but our
loved ones are changed, somehow insubstantial—the houses, too, exist on a mysterious
plane.
Yes, these shells are powerful places where we invest our
energy, shaping the space to suit us, to keep us safe.
Here is a story that testifies to the place that home—as a
place, idea, memory—held in one woman’s heart. It is a true story, as true as a
story can be, because isn’t it also true that only fiction tells no lies?
One late afternoon not at all long ago, as January drew to a
close, an 87-year-old woman in the first stages of Alzheimer’s disappeared from
her seniors’ residence; no one saw her leave.
She took a taxi to the home where she and her husband had raised
their children. Those children are middle aged now; the husband, in a veterans’
hospital; the house, a vacant mansion at the end of a long drive locked behind
rusted gates. Pillars flank the roadside entrance to the property; you can see
where a plaque was once mounted bearing the estate’s name, “Lakewood.”
The home is aptly named. The property is extensive, about
three acres, almost unheard of in a city. It’s a heavily wooded lot perched on a
cliff that overlooks another cliff that overlooks a lake that looks like the
sea.
Two years ago the woman and her family sold the place to a
developer. The property—prime real estate in a real-estate-ravenous city—is slated
for subdivision. Acres of giant spruce and oak and maple trees that stand vigil
over the now crumbling Georgian-style house will be replaced by three oversized
McMansions destined and designed to overwhelm the semi-wild landscape.
The place has a lonely feel. The road itself—Pine Ridge
Road—is hushed. It is both wistful and gentle, sheltered by century-old trees
but also buffeted by winds off the nearby bluffs. A paradoxical landscape.
The gracious old house is emblematic. Its days are numbered.
It stands empty, green shutters askew or missing, grey stucco discoloured and
damaged. It is barely visible through the bent iron fence, thick trees and bracken
gone wild that screen it from the quiet road.
It is here at the old gate that the taxi leaves our lady, who,
so the reporters report, is ”well dressed, carrying a purse and keys, makeup
carefully applied.”
Though she had slipped unseen from the nursing home, her
arrival at Lakewood is witnessed. A man working at a nearby house approaches
her offering help, but she tells him no, she is fine, this was her home for
over 40 years and she just going for a visit. He returns to work.
A neighbour sees her, too, recognizes her as the former
resident and watches as our lady limps down the long driveway to the front door
of the abandoned house. When she reaches the door the neighbour turns away, assumes
she is okay, thinks that perhaps she’s just back for a visit, and, after all,
help isn’t far if she needs it.
At 4:30 the next morning, our lady is found dead, lying right
outside the faded green six-panel door—on the very threshold of her home.
Police say that though temperatures were as low as -10 C
that night, she did not freeze to death, although the cold was a factor. They
did not say what was the cause of death.
Her distraught son is interviewed. He talks of his own passion for the
area, this bit of urban wilderness. A paradise, he calls it. He talks of his
mother’s love for her home and the happy years the family shared there. Of her
last journey to the house, he says: “I think it was her last wish. It was
almost like a mission. Destiny was calling her and she was going home.”
You’ve guessed, perhaps, that I know the house. I do, but I
did not know our lady, though I share her name—Kathleen.
Her road, Pine Ridge, is a favourite walk of mine, a short
distance from my own home. Her house has always intrigued me, it is one-of-a-kind,
a rare bit of yesterday in a city where shiny and new reigns supreme.
The geography of the ridge on which her home is so
prominently positioned has a powerful energy. The massive stands of old trees,
the cliff that’s just beyond, the lake so far below, and all the space it
consumes across the horizon—sacred. I would dare say so. Hallowed ground.
Had it been my home on the ridge, where the wind whips off
the bluffs only to be shushed, shushed by the pines, I would have returned. To those
trees, I would go home, and I would not be alone.
Brave woman, wise woman. She lay down under the boughs. Though
the door is closed to us, she crossed the threshold and is home at last.